The photo isn't really the problem

“You and your partner are at a botanical garden on a Sunday afternoon — your idea, somewhere you'd both been meaning to visit. You're walking a path lined with something genuinely beautiful, the kind of place that makes you feel like you made the right call. Then you notice your partner has slowed down beside you and is holding their phone up, photographing the flowers, and then checking the photos, and then photographing again. They've been doing it for the last ten minutes. You're walking next to someone who's here, but also somewhere slightly ahead of now — already thinking about the caption, the share, the memory preserved.”